So this man, a minister, a man of god no less, cursed one of his sons out as if he were a dog in the street. And is getting much support and co-signing from many in the black community.
Nah. As a parent, this is a big NOPE. I feel as a parent it’s best to hold your tongue and walk away if you feel like that. Just be silent in the moment and later address it with your child. I’ve been cut clean to the bone by stuff my parents have said to me when I was an adult and they never even cursed me out…so there is no way I’d ever feel good about cursing at my children, when much less was so hurtful to me. Kirk’s son is going to carry this the rest of his life. They will likely reconcile, and maybe Kirk will apologize, but even still his son is going to think about the contempt his father really feels for him to the end of his day. Isn’t life hard enough? Isn’t the world filled to the brim with people who want to hate, harm, and destroy your children without you speaking to them this way? Shame on you Kirk Franklin. For shame. The whole family needs therapy but Kirk needs individual therapy as well, he sounds like he cannot control himself.
And yes, I understand Kirk’s son Kerrion is 33. So what? People act as if him being a grown man makes a difference. it does not. My children are 31, 26, 23. I know what it’s like to have adult children, and I know what it’s like to have adult children jump bad at you. Both my children and I have benefited and grown as people because my husband and I chose not to verbally abuse them in a heated moment but to address it when calmed down. I never have and never will ever curse at my children nor threaten to stomp them, or to break their necks, because I also know what it’s like to be an adult child in your 20s or 30s and have your parents say foul sh!t to you…heck I know what it’s like to be in your 40s and have that happen.
Adulthood doesn’t mean your parents can’t still hurt you, nor does it mean as a parent you are no longer supposed to be their safe harbor in the world. I’m not a perfect parent by any measure, but my kids know no matter what I will never hurt them in this way, I’ll never turn my back on them, I’ll never threaten to assault them or kill them. Not when they were children and I was young, not now when they are young adults and I’m middle-aged, not when I’m elderly and they’re middle-aged. Heck with my oldest I was a teenager when she was born so we will be old ladies together, but I don’t care that’s my baby and I will NEVER curse her out even when she’s 80 and I’m 97. Nor my sons. Kirk should be ashamed speaking to his own child like that, that is a really disturbing thing to do.
Talking to your child in this way is disturbing and trifling in my book no matter how old they are, and especially how old the parents are. Kirk Franklin is a middle-aged man, by now he should have learned restraint and how to control his temper. Especially concerning his own children. Let anybody else in the world ‘trigger’ you and ‘make’ you go off on them, but not your children.
